How to Find Your Strengths | The Better Than Rich Show Ep. 19
How to Find Your Strengths
How do we know if we are playing to our strengths? Well, if we aren’t playing to our strengths, we will feel dissatisfied or unfulfilled in our lives.
What does it mean to be Better Than Rich? To be fulfilled in life, and to play to our strengths. When we play to our strengths, we live out our authentic truth.
How To Reveal Our Authentic Truth
Reflection is one of the biggest tools that can be used when trying to uncover things about ourselves. This is important because most of the time our gifts are blind to us because we are doing it unconsciously and they come so naturally, that we don’t see much value in them. But the truth is, not everyone can do what we can do. We all have different strengths.
What comes easy to me that other people struggle with?
What do people naturally come to me with?
When they have problems what kind of problems do people come to me with?
Another great way to find our authentic truth or things that play to our strengths is by analyzing what activities get us excited and make us happy. If an action makes us happy, then that’s a sign this is where we are meant to be and what it’s we should be doing!
The goal is to better understand ourselves, and then double down on that understanding! There are personality questionnaires that can help with our understanding, like the CVI.
There are four sections of the CVI questionnaire results. After selecting the words that best describe us we will receive two categories that are dominant within us.
Firstly, there is a Dominate Banker. Bankers love knowledge, they are extremely organized, they conserve resources, are very detailed, and enjoy teaching.
Secondly, there is a Dominate Innovator. Innovators are essentially the counterparts of Bankers. They are known to be very creative and artsy, they love freedom and flexibility, enjoy all forms of the arts, and they can consistently learn and absorb.
The third is the Dominate Merchant, these people are extremely people-oriented, they gain energy from their connections with others, they are visionaries, and are very connected to love and truth.
Forth, there are builders, these people are powered by faith, they are leaders of the pack, action takers, they want short quick, and fast-paced change, these extremely action oriented and task driven individuals.
Another helpful questionnaire is the Big five Personality Test, after taking the questionnaire it will provide an assessment with percentages explaining how agreeable an individual is, meaning how often they attempt to keep the peace. How neurotic an individual is, which is concerning a person’s consistent mood and outlook and the level of negativity it contains. How extraverted a person is, do they gain energy when they are around people? How open to experience an individual is, do they enjoy trying new things and taking the path less traveled? Lastly, the assessment will score how industrious a person is, which is how well they complete their tasks and how task-oriented they are.
These assessments are helpful because they can help us understand what we are good at. Not everyone can be extremely organized like a Banker or take charge like a Builder.
Appreciation Languages
These appreciating languages are good to know for ourselves as well as for everyone we have a relationship with. We want to meet our people where they are at and understand ourselves enough to communicate with them so they can do the same.
The five appreciation languages are physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, gift-giving, and quality time. If we were to send a gift to an individual we have a relationship with who has an appreciation language of quality time, they might enjoy the gift but it isn’t what makes them feel appreciated.
What Are You Spending Your Time On?
After learning our strengths, we need to put them into action and double down on them. This means we need to be spending more time on those strengths. When we become conscious of this, we might realize that we spend a lot of time doing things that we aren’t good at. Sometimes it’s part of our occupation.
To begin making changes to include more of our strengths in our every day, we make small changes. When first changing things, small changes are very useful because we start training ourselves to think differently. This could be a simple conversation with our employer. Sometimes we don’t have the freedom to make changes in our position or how it operates so it’s good to ask ourselves what exactly is in our control.
When we are limited on what we can do, we need to focus on what is in our control and do that to the best of our strengths. This is done by creating desired outcomes and why they are Important, then creating massive action toward that goal. We want to permit ourselves to think differently.
How we allow ourselves to think outside the box is by being completely knowledgeable of our truth. When we are confident in our truth, we can take paths that others haven’t confidently. Knowing our priorities, truth, strengths, and how to apply those strengths will help us create a life that is Better Than Rich.
We want to use more energy on what we are good at and less on the things that are time and energy drainers.